Conflict Resolution Counseling & Therapy
There are some fights that don’t seem to ever end. Then they’ll just go silent for a bit before letting it begin. Then they’ll say nothing for a while – the same words, the same hurt, the same walk away, unheard. If this was your experience, there really isn’t another good reason. Conflict resolution counseling is required that gets to the root of conflict and the root of conflict driving you to argue.
Phil DeLuca, LCSW has been working with individuals, couples, and families to break out of the “argue-shut up-argue” rut and into conversations that have meaning for more than 45 years. Conflict resolution therapy offers you techniques to disagree without hurting each other, whether you’re at odds with your partner, with your family, your co-parent, or your co-worker, and the means to solve the issues that keep arising.
What Is Conflict Resolution Counseling?
Conflict resolution counseling is a purposeful, action-oriented therapy specializing in understanding and resolving recurring conflicts and developing communication and emotional management strategies to end the pattern once and forever.
It is not just “talking things out. A significant proportion of couples and families that enter therapy for issues of conflict have already had a great deal of discussion. The thing that is usually lacking is this saying is not about the fact that there is too little or too much talk, it is about how the talk is presented. Sessions are designed to help participants pinpoint the emotional reactions that often underlie persistent disagreements, gain clarity of expression rather than defensiveness when communicating with others, and acquire strategies to defuse a conflict before it spirals out of control.
It’s not that we’re taking anyone to task or that we’re trying to work out who might be “wrong” or “right. It’s about seeing the common conception you’re both both in, and discovering an alternative approach through that.
Signs You May Benefit From Conflict Resolution Therapy
If you identify with any of the following you may benefit from conflict resolution counseling:
You end up saying the same thing multiple times and it isn’t really solved
There’s a rapid progression of thoughts or one of you gets turned off and withdraws
Resentment has been growing over the past weeks, months or years
A need or setting a boundary almost always results in conflict
Conflict has entered into your relationship, your parenting or your health at work
You’re tired from the stress and don’t know how to resolve the problem yourself
If there is an un-resolved conflict, it will not remain un-resolved. It can seep into every facet of life without intervention – sleep, concentration, physical health, and other relationships. There will be much collateral damage by anticipating it with regular, organised ideas or backing.
How Conflict Resolution Therapy Works
All conflicts have a history, all conflict resolution therapy plans are never the same. Sessions are guided by an approach inspired by Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotion-Focused Therapy, and structured communication training, and tend to be dedicated to the following:
Correctly recognizing the true pattern
Often it happens not so much that a lot is repeated but that most arguments repeat on the topic of the surface. We're able to collaborate as partners to uncover the root of the conflict behind the disagreements of the day.
Developing resilience in communication
Well, it's good to communicate under normal conditions. Keeping lucid and respectful in the face of strong feelings is a different and perhaps tougher matter. You'll discover tools that are both useful and practical in both.
Importance of in-action de-escalation skills
Topics covered in conflict resolution therapy are grounded ways to break feedback loops before they start, how to recognize your own triggers, how to take an effective pause and how to re-enter the conversation in an effective way.
Being an active listener and setting boundaries
There are lots of folks who know what they want to say, but are incapable of saying it without a defensive reaction. We do both on that side of it; speak, listen to the person without reacting right away or not.
Finding ways to solve problems and to compromise
After the channels break back open, we bring the issue to resolution - it's about making it happen rather than going round and round.
Why Work With Go Beyond Talk Therapist
Phil DeLuca has been doing this work for over 45 years, and experienced real, lived conflict with thousands of clients – not just in theory, in a textbook. This experience changes what the sessions are like: sincere, straightforward, and noncritical or pressure-filled.
There are some factors which make this practice different:
- Over 45 years of clinical experience – Specifically in the area of relationship and communication conflict
- The flexible formats – Include sessions that are in-person in Midland, NC, and secure online, anywhere in the state
- There is no one-size-fits-all treatment – Your history is what your conflict is, which is why your treatment is shaped by your history
- Support for one partner only – Work with an individual partner, even if your other partner is not involved, can have a significant impact on the relationship dynamic
- Most major insurance accepted – along with self-pay options
- A 15 minute initial consultation, free of charge – for questions before commitment
You don’t have to continually go back around that same circle again. With proper support, it will be possible to slow down, to get to what is really going on and to establish a form of communication which does work.
Who Benefits From Conflict Resolution Counseling
Couples
Much of what I do here is couples conflict resolution therapy; helping partners identify the pattern and realize they are repeating the cycle of criticism and defense, of pursuing and withdrawing from what happens, while building emotional safety and learning new patterns that stick once outside the session.
Individuals
When the cycle is visible, Phil then is involved in what is below it, the felt experience, preceding the utterance of the first word in any argument. It is at this point that UnTalk is. It has nothing to do with selling you improved scripts. It is concerned with modifying what you are actually responding to.
Family conflict counseling structured
Mediated experience designed to facilitate recurring tensions among family members with adult children, multi-generational families, and blended families to diffuse tension at holidays and family events.
Work team members working relationships
Conflict with a workmate, supervisor, or business partner is vicious and difficult to put down at work. Conflict counseling in the workplace is a process to learn communication and boundary skills that will allow you to manage workplace conflict, rather than let it manage your week.
Conflict Resolution Counseling – In-Person & Online Across NC
The Midland office of Go Beyond Talk Therapist provides in-person conflict resolution counseling in Midland and safe telecounseling to clients across North Carolina, including:
– Midland, NC – Primary Office
– Matthews, NC – Telehealth
– Charlotte, NC – Telehealth
– Concord, NC – Telehealth
– Monroe, NC – Telehealth
– Indian Trail, NC – In-Person & Telehealth
– Mint Hill, NC – In-Person & Telehealth
– Stallings, NC – In-Person & Telehealth
– Kannapolis, NC – Telehealth
– All of North Carolina – Statewide Telehealth
Online conflict resolution therapy can help offer consistent assistance wherever you are without the need to battle commutes that are an added stress in an already stressful week.
Ready to Break the Cycle?
You don’t have to continue the same argument. The right support means you don’t have to live in fear of conflict tearing you apart; rather, it can be a shared journey to overcome.
Contact Phil DeLuca, LCSW, today and get started in communication that works-without a meeting of the families.
Frequently Asked Questions About Conflict Resolution Counseling
No. A lot of our counseling involves couples conflict counseling, but we also do a great deal of individual counseling that involves family, co-parenting, and workplace conflicts. Repetitive conflict patterns are beneficial to any player.
Patients feel great improvement within a few sessions of Mediation therapy. If the conflict is more complicated or has been ongoing, it might require continued support and goals will be reevaluated periodically by your therapist.
That happens a lot and doesn’t rule out that you’re stuck. One on one conflict resolution counseling always works by itself – one may just be working at the problem and the tools acquired through the process may change the dynamic.
While it may overlap with conflict resolution therapy, the latter focuses specifically on how partners and family members do argue, communicate and process disagreements – with themselves, one another and their coworkers – and how to do so.
Yes. We provide secure online conflict resolution therapy to our clients in North Carolina, including Chapel town, Matthews, Concord, Monroe, and other areas, in addition to in-person sessions at our office in Midland, NC.
Yes. Many of the same principles that apply to couples work in counseling, namely: knowing what the problem is, communicating clearly, and de-escalating, apply to workplace conflict counseling or family conflict counseling whatever relationship is causing the stress.
Yes. All sessions with Go Beyond Talk Therapist are HIPAA and Confidential. No information will be provided without your written consent.
Most major insurance plans are accepted and also clients can pay cash. Please contact us and we can assist you in finding out what is covered before your first session.
